95% are horn doggies says CNN

well, that's not quite what this article on cnn.com said, but it might as well have.

apparently 95% of all people have had premarital sex. for every hundred people in a room, there are only 5 that have not. talk about minority.

anyways, so lemme first say first off (for those that cannot read between the lines) that i do not agree with premarital sex from a biblical perspective. i believe it falls into the category of sexual immorality that we see all over the place in the bible.

oh yeah, and this post IS NOT about marriage (for all of my grey area "where is the marriage ceremony in the bible?" or "where does it say no polygamy?" locos). it is about sex ed.

that being said, let's have a little conversation regarding abstinence education vs. preparation education (condom usage, etc).

i can't help but see the dangers inherent with each education program. of course the prep education has a gaping hole in it - they are not fool proof. boom, dead in the water.

on other one hand, abstinence education teaches the correct and biblical position. we should abstain from all sexual encounters until we have married, then it's on. however, remove the moral implications of an abstinence position and what you come down to is basically someone abstaining for fear of disease or pregnancy, right? proper education about prophylactive devices can virtually remove that risk nowadays. so for the person who does not know god and does not align themselves with the bible's teachings, that's a pretty hard sell.

heathen dude: "so basically, the best thing you got is you might get someone pregnant, you might get the clap, and you will anger a god that i don't believe in?
** out the door looking for that little cheerleader he likes**

but can we really not teach abstinence as an option? it is the only completely responsible methodology (which makes sense because god knows what he is talking about).

now, let's take it deeper (shout out to j-lou & the old school oikos heads)

so i have a son, right? when he's like 18 (i can dream right?), he's gonna ask me about sexual stuff. he'll someday (relatively soon) inquire about that neighborhood of his body that keeps getting kicked by the wacko little girls who clearly have never been taught what goes on down there when you take a boot to it. he's gonna ask about why his friend in english class is "hitting it" with little andrea but he doesn't see any bruising around her eyes.

so what do i tell him? abstain of course (after all of the anatomy bidness that is)

but what about if my son grows up and hits that rebellious stage full force? the partying. the drinking. little andrea ain't so little no more. do i REALLY have the guts to preach "abstinence abstinence abstinence" when i know full well what he's up to?

the realities of biblical principles find their difficulty when the applications enter our home.

• my wife is going out on me - can i really forgive and take her back?


• my son is having premarital sex - can i really not take the easy road and hand him a trojan (no pun intended)?

i hope that someday i have the strength to stand for the right thing in my home in this regard with my son. i must teach him that the BEST way is always the biblical position.

5% is not a lot. but it can be done. and it should. and we should teach our children that it can be done. the statistics are depressing. they need to be encouraged that their choices are their own and not a result of a CNN article.